The Lowdown on Letters
One of the most confusing issues when engaging in international dating during the search for romance is correspondence. I have heard many questions over the years. So I thought that I would do what I could to help you.
First, understand that the income from correspondence is a key source of revenue for almost all of the agencies one can find on the Internet. Sometimes it is well meaning, but sadly too often it is not.
Letter writing is a tool and nothing more. In the best circumstances it can be very valuable. However, too often it is a simply a way to separate well-meaning guys from their money with no assurance of the happiness we all seek.
Unfortunately the vast majority of guys who are interested in international women are satisfied with a lengthy exchange of letters and nothing more. I have met men who have done this for twenty years and spent thousands in the process. Of course everyone is entitled to their own version of happiness. Who am I to judge? Some guys love to gamble.
However, I am interested in the guys who have the “right stuff” and want to find that special someone and share their life.
Some obvious advice first – work with a domestic agency that has been in business for many years and is transparent. Current references should be readily available. I try to do competitive analysis to this end. Always ask if tours are available. I freely admit that there is only one agency that offers this – A Foreign Affair.
Let’s talk about correspondence. As I said it is a valuable tool. However, NOTHING WILL EVER HAPPEN UNTIL YOU MEET THE LADY FACE TO FACE! Your correspondence should only contribute to this end. So, what is the best way to achieve success?
If you have registered with AFA (and you should – it is free). You will begin to receive “intro” letters from all over. Understand that while you have the advantage to browse any of the 45,000 profiles on loveme.com, the women cannot. This is for your protection. However, if a lady visits one of the many offices around the world she will be able to view your profile and photos. Given her busy life and difficult transportation, this is rare.
So, intro letters are written with the hope that you or others might find the girl interesting and respond. On the surface this is innocent, especially given the competition they face. But if you are fifty years old and receive letters from a twenty year old from a country that does not interest you, perhaps you will scratch your head and wonder why. Now you understand.
There is good news if you find this tedious. AFA offers a simple way to eliminate these letters. All you have to do is go to the “Members Area/Login” and click on the “My Info” section. At the bottom you will find a selection entitled “I do not want to receive introduction letters (women who have written to you first)”. Once you select this, you will no longer receive intro letters if that works for you.
Now let’s discuss letters that you wish to write to ladies that interest you. Rather than attempt to paraphrase, I will quote AFA’s procedure for writing letters.
Your email letter is received by one of our foreign offices; our professional translators translate your letter from English and notify the woman that a letter has arrived for her. She is given the option to have the letter read to her over the phone, or she can have the letter mailed to her, or she can come to the office and pick it up. When the woman receives her letter, she can immediately submit a response, either over the phone, or through the mail. The letter is then translated into English and forwarded to you. Please note: due to IMBRA (U.S. Federal Regulations for International Marriage Agencies/Introduction Services) you cannot exchange personal contact information with the women via Express mail until she signs your IMBRA form. Any contact information will be deleted until that time. Once the woman comes to the office and signs the IMBRA form you are then free to exchange personal contact information. IMBRA is a U.S. Federal Law that applies to this company no matter what country that YOU reside within.
The cost of the service:
- $9.99 per page ($7.49 for Platinum Members) More Info
- $3.50 for sending a photo along with your letter More Info
- Free translation of your letters. EVERY Letter (to and from) is TRANSLATED FREE OF CHARGE!!
If the woman does respond to you via the Mail Forwarding system you will be sent a regular e-mail advising you that you have a response waiting. The fee to open her response to you is only $9.99 per page, (3,000 characters including spaces) and $3.50 for each photo she sends. Due to IMBRA regulations, all contact information will be removed from outgoing and incoming letters until the woman has visited her local office in order to view the client’s background form and sign the necessary paperwork. It is up to the woman when/if she will do this.
I understand that this is a lot of information. You may ask why is the cost for opening a letter and sending a reply so high. Please understand that workers must translate each letter and attempt to notify the lady. Also, a reasonable profit is included.
Here is my advice to the guys who are serious about finding a life partner. Resist the temptation to become a “keyboard Romeo”. Rather decide what country/city you intend to visit and when. Once you make this decision, identify several ladies in each city that interest you. Send each of them letters a few weeks before your departure. State in the subject line of your letter when you will be in her city. I assure you that this will set you apart from the many letters she will receive. Once you arrive, the tour leader and local staff can easily assist you with arranging a meeting.
I hope this has been helpful. I wish you the best. CARPE DIEM! Get off that couch and book a tour that may change your life.