Requirements for Marriage in Ukraine

Requirements for Marriage in Ukraine

Requirements for Marriage in Ukraine

Pursuant to Article 195 of the Code of Laws on Marriage and Family of Ukraine, a Ukrainian citizen, or a citizen of a foreign state, can enter into a marriage with a foreign national on the territory of Ukraine on a general basis, i.e. in compliance with the terms of Articles 15 and 17 of the Code of Laws on Marriage and Family of Ukraine.

The Ukrainian civil marriage process can take several weeks to several months. If you are marrying another American, or a third-country national, Ukrainian authorities require that one of the parties be present in Ukraine – for an unspecified period of several months – before they can register their marriage in Ukraine.

To marry a Ukrainian citizen, a U.S. citizen should follow these step-by-step instructions.

If you have been married before, please make sure that you have the original divorce decree or death certificate properly authenticated in the U.S.

Since Ukraine acceded to the 1961 Hague Convention abolishing Requirement of Legalization for Foreign Public Documents, the U.S. documents destined for use in Ukraine should be certified by one of the officials in the jurisdiction in which the document has been executed. Said official must have been designated as competent to issue certifications by “apostille” (usually in the office of the State Secretary of State of his/her counterpart).

Fill out a Letter of Non-Impediment to Marriage (“marriage letter”) at the U.S. Embassy in Kyiv.

This form (in English and Ukrainian) contains basic information and is a sworn statement that you are not currently married. It must be signed only in the presence of a Consular Officer and, as for a notarial service, there is a fee of $30. At the same time you can obtain the forms and instructions necessary for filing an immigration petition with the Embassy or at your local INS office in the U.S.

Authenticate the “Letter” at the Legalization Department of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of Ukraine , located in Kyiv at 2 Velyka Zhytomyrska, tel: 238-1815, 253-1266, 212-8392, 238-1669, any working day of the week except Thursday from 9:30 a.m. – 12:00 p.m. (accepting documents) and 4:00 p.m. – 5.30 p.m. (returning documents).

The application fee is 8 Hryvnas for each document. The legalization fee is 8.50 Hryvnas (about $1.5) for Ukrainian citizens, 17 Hrivnas (about $3) for foreign citizens and 85 Hrivnas (about $16) for legal entities per document for next-day service. For one-day expediting service one has to pay a double fee. The fee must be paid to account 141924 of the National Bank of Ukraine in any neighborhood.

Obtain a certified translation of the data page of your passport, any annulment decrees, divorce decrees or death certificates of your former spouse(s) (if you were previously married), and the letter of non-impediment to marriage.

To arrange for your marriage, take all the documents, including your original passport (with a translation), the authenticated original death or divorce decree (if any) (with translation), and the authenticated Letter of Non-Impediment to Marriage, with translation to RAGS – the civil registrar’s office in the hometown of your fiance(e).

The Central RAGS in Kyiv is located at 11 Prospekt Peremogy, tel: 236-0071. The person who deals with marriages to foreigners can be reached at 236-0243 or 236-0147.

Ukrainian Girls (with apologies to Donald Fagen’s Tommorow’s Girls)

Ukrainian Girls (with apologies to Donald Fagen’s Tommorow’s Girls)

Our town is just like any other
Good citizens at work and play
Normal folks doin’ business in the normal way
This morning was like any other
Mommies kissing daddies goodbye
Then the mailman screamed
And pointed up at the sky

From Sumy to the streets of Kherson
From Kiev and Poltava too
They’re speeding towards our sun
They’re on a party run
Here come Ukrainian Girls
Ukrainian Girls

You see them on the grass at lunch hour
Soaking up the vertical rays
In their summer dresses
A little smile can really make your day
Their kisses feel like real kisses
And when they cry they cry real tears
But what’s left in your arms
When the static clears

They’re landing on the Jersey beaches
Their beauty makes the white sand swirl
The heat is so intense
Our men have no defense
Against Ukrainian Girls

In the cool of the evening
In the last light of the Summer sun
I wait by the oak tree
When the day’s busy work is done
Soon the warm night breezes
Start rolling in off the sea
Yes, at lantern time
That’s when you come to me
Come to me

Our home is just like any other
We’re grillin’ burgers on the back lawn
Some time goes by
We fall asleep with the TV on
I dream about a laughing angel
Then the laugh becomes a silent smile
Look out fellas
It’s marriage time

They’re mixing with the population
A honey wearing pumps and pearls
Lord help the lonely guys
Hooked by those hungry eyes
Here come Ukrainian Girls
Ukrainian Girls

From Sumy to the streets of Kherson
From Kiev and Poltava too
They’re speeding towards our sun
They’re on a party run
Here come Ukrainian Girls
Ukrainian Girls

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Famous Couples with Exceptional Age Difference

Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones
Age difference 25 years
Michael is 67, she is 42. They been married for 12 years and have two children.

Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng
Age difference: 37 years
Nearly four decades Rupert’s junior, Wendi started off her relationship with Rupert while he was still married to his second wife and Deng was working for a News Corp. subsidiary. Wendi and Rupert tied the knot in 1999.
Woody Allen & Soon-Yi Previn
Age difference: 34 years
One of the creepiest couplings in history, Woody and Soon-Yi began their affair when he was 56 and romantically involved with her adoptive mom, Mia Farrow.
Billy Joel & Katie Lee Joel
Age difference: 32 years
Following two failed marriages, a 55-year-old Billy Joel met 23-year-old “restaurant critic” Katie Lee while she was vacationing in New York in 2004.
Geraldo Rivera & Erica Levy
Age difference: 32 years
Not only is Erica Levy 32 years Geraldo’s junior, she’s also his fifth wife. They met when she was an employee of CNBC.
Harry Evans & Tina Brown
Age difference: 26 years
Tina was a college student when she met Harry, a famous newspaper editor. Harry quickly left his wife and kids to be with Tina, and they married in 1981.
Harvey Weinstein & Georgina Chapman
Age difference: 24 years
Shortly after splitting from his wife of 20 years in 2004, Harvey was publicly linked to Georgina, who is 24 years his junior. They married in 2007.
Jack Welch & Suzy Wetlaufer
Age difference: 24 years
Jack was still married to his second wife when he met Suzy, who was working on a story about Jack for the Harvard Business Review at the time. They married in 2004.
Ivana Trump & Rossano Rubicondi
Age difference: 24 years
The most famous cougar of all time, Ivana married Rossano in a lavish ceremony in Palm Beach in early 2008.
Donald Trump & Melania Trump
Age difference: 24 years
Donald and Melania met in 1999, two years after his divorce from Marla Maples. They got engaged five years later, married in 2005, and had their first child together, Barron, in 2006.
Tommy Mottola & Thalia
Age difference: 22 years
Two years after his divorce from Mariah Carey was finalized, the music mogul married another young pop star, the Latin singer Thalia, in 2000.
Howard Stern & Beth Ostrosky
Age difference: 18 years
Howard and Beth started dating when Howard was separated (but not divorced) from his first wife. The couple, who are 18 years apart, tied the knot last month at Le Cirque.

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Fiat 500 Abarth Commercial

Fiat 500 Abarth Commercial
Did you enjoy the sexy commercial that aired during the superbowl featuring a beautiful, tall model speaking Italian? Well, she’s Catrinel Menghia, a Romanian! That’s right. Romania shares a common border with the Ukraine. No surprise. Many models and actresses like Olga Konstantinovna Kurylenko born on November 14, 1979, in Berdyansk, Ukraine who was the “Bond Girl” in the latest James Bond film “Quantum of Solace”.
Victoria’s Secret uses Ukrainian models often. So what does all this mean for you? Well, while you may not be able to date these famous ladies, they share the same cultural DNA of the thousands of ladies just waiting to meet you on an AFA romance tour. So, what are you waiting for?

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“Exporting Raymond” – A Study in Russo-American Cultural Differences

This great piece is running on HBO Signature. Phillip Rosenthal, the executive producer is in Moscow attempting to cast and produce a Russian version of the popular sitcom, “Everybody Loves Raymond”. His difficulties offer a great insight into the cultural difference you may encounter while dating in the Ukraine. Enjoy and comment. Thanks.

Bob Wray

Time Management on a Romance Tour

Time Management on a Romance Tour

Let’s consider a typical three city tour to the Ukraine. Of course, there are other offerings by AFA, some more, some less. How many hours are available for dating? How many for socials? After all, we can’t consider sleeping or travel time.

Well, my estimate is that there is a total of a bit over 100 hours available to you. About 8 will be used for bus travel among the cities. The socials will occupy 12 – 4 hours for each of 3 socials. I estimate that you will then have about 85 hours to date. Let’s do the percentages.

Socials – 11.4 %

Free dating time – 81 %

So, what does all this anal math work mean romantically? Well, your time at the socials is rather limited. Although they are simply terrific for meeting a great number of ladies (the odds are usually 10 to 1), you have to move fast and try to land as many dates as you can. During the first two hours the lights are up and the music is down – perfect for moving among the tables and chatting up the ladies. It reverses during the second half – good for dancing or inviting a lady to a quiet spot for conversation. There is often a bit of entertainment in between. Of course you can always invite a special lady out for a drink afterwards.

It is the free dating time that presents the strongest potential for meeting the right lady. You see, once you are alone with her and your interpreter, it’s your party and only yours. Success is in your hands. Dates can last between 1 or 3 hours, or even more. Being conservative about it, you could easily date 25 ladies or maybe more! A second or third date is certainly possible.

So, given all of this opportunity, if you return home with contact information for 4 or 5 ladies of strong interest you are doing very well. Of course you will have to remain in contact with them and return when you can.

I hope this helps you see the value of an AFA romance tour. Believe me, I have seen many men remain behind as the tour flew home and some get engaged on the spot. It’s possible.

Mail Order Grooms

Mail Order Grooms

More grist for the mill. The lady in “Eat, Pray, Love” is 40 and her name is Elizabeth Gilbert. She came to marry the Brazilian-born Australian lover she met in Indonesia in “Eat, Pray, Love”

Even better – In 1936, a constitutional crisis in the British Empire was caused by King-Emperor Edward VIII’s proposal to marry Wallis Simpson, a twice-divorced American socialite from Baltimore. So I guess he was a mail order groom. This permitted Elizabeth to become Queen when her Dad (from “The King’s Speech”) passed away.

Or how about Princess Diana hooking up with Dobi Al-Fayed after divorcing Prince Charles? Had she not tragically been killed, she may have married him.

Even better – Queen Noor of Jordan was an American girl from DC and married the king until his death in 1999. She’s still around.

There’s a lot more – but enough. “What’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander”.

By the way, not an eye was batted when Sammy Davis, Jr., Tiger Woods and Will Ferrell married Swedish brides.

Take care.



Pros and Cons of Each AFA Country

Pros and Cons of Each AFA Country

This is a familiar topic on Bud’s Monday night calls (which you should always enjoy!). The instructions are on the AFA home page. Often guys are confused as to which country would be best for him. The most critical factor, of course, is how do you feel about the appearance of the 40,000 ladies you can easily view on the AFA site? Everyone has their own taste. As far as looks, there is a lot of diversity. They are all beautiful in their own way.

Ukrainian women benefit from the Slavic culture. They are often blond (but not always). Green or gray eyes are common. They tend to have graceful figures with long legs. Often they tend to be taller.

In Latin America you will find lovely olive complexions, dark hair and eyes and striking beauty. It varies a bit from Columbia to Peru to Costa Rica. A simple search will show you for yourself.

In the Philippines, it is similar to Latin America, but the ladies are usually shorter and slim. They all look like sisters, with long dark hair.

In China, the ladies are usually fair, almost porcelain. Of course they have dark hair and eyes. It is amazing how they hold their beauty as they age.

Now, I have only been to the Ukraine, so my comments of other countries are just from observation of profiles and videos. However, here are some ideas that may help.


We all know that each country will accept a man older than themselves, but there are differences.

In the Ukraine you will find that a difference of 10 -15 years is acceptable. On occasion, a lady may be willing to accept more, but not often.

I would say that the same holds true for Latin America, although they may be a bit more flexible.

In the Philippines, the ladies tend to be younger and expect to marry young. They will readily accept the right guy who may be 20 years older. However, if you are a younger man, this may be the place for you.

China is very interesting. I am always amazed at the large number of ladies in their forties, or even fifties that are single and may not have a child. They really hold their beauty as I mentioned. If you are older and their looks appeal to you, have at it.


This is a very serious issue and you must have an opinion about it. Will you accept a single mom? Do you want to have children of your own with her? Do you already have children? This can be a blessing or a deal breaker, depending on how you and the lady feel about this. Here are some ideas.

In the Ukraine, women tend to have only one child because of economics. Single moms abound. They are very dutiful mothers. This is great since they will assume many of the duties of child rearing although you will be expected to support and participate in the parenting. One benefit is that once she is your wife and happy, it is very unlikely that she will leave, for the child’s sake. Understand that if a woman is of child bearing age and has no children – she wants one. This is only natural.

In Latin America, much of what I said above applies, but families may be a bit larger. If they are not mothers, they typically will want two or more children.

The Philippines is different in that the ladies tend to be younger and expect a larger family. As in Latin America, family is critical, so you can expect that they will want to keep in close contact with theirs and may desire visits or even relocation.

In China, the ladies are used to not having children at a later age, or maybe one. Government policies sometimes discourage procreation due to overpopulation. Boys are treasured while girls not so much, sad as it seems.

Just have a clear idea of what you want and how you feel. This will be a big part of the remainder of your life.


I posted a detailed breakdown by age in each country that may help, but here are the facts. The available ladies changes weekly as women sign up and some get married and delete their profiles. However, these were the stats as of May, 2012.

Ukraine – 12,454

Philippines – 11,129

Columbia – 4,572

China – 2,452

Peru – 2,196

Costa Rica – 1,062

Of course there are other locations such as Russia or Thailand, but romance tours are not currently scheduled, although travel can be arranged through AFA.


This is a very personal issue. Both you and lady may or may not have a serious opinion about this. You must reach a mutual understanding with her. However, here are some general observations for you.

Most of the ladies in the Ukraine are going to be Russian Orthodox, a form of Catholicism similar to Greek or Eastern Orthodox. She may or may not be serious about her faith.

Both Latin America and the Philippines are serious Roman Catholic countries. Girls are raised in this faith and are often quite serious about it. Because of this, divorce is frowned upon, or actually not available. This is good for you, of course.

China is a bit of an enigma. They frequently list themselves as “none/agnostic”, but Buddhism is common. Depending on your faith this may be fine or an issue.


Try not to be too concerned about this as it is so easily fixed. So many other factors cannot. However, here are the facts.

In the Ukraine, the majority of the ladies will speak Russian or Ukrainian or often both. They will learn English readily and you would be wise to learn a bit of Russian (it’s not easy).

A real advantage of the Philippines is that English is very common. Of course, they will also speak Bisaya or Tagalog. Don’t be concerned about this.

Spanish is, of course, universal in Latin America although you will encounter women that speak some English. The learning curve each way is not challenging.

In China, Chinese (probably Mandarin) is the norm, although you will often encounter women who speak English also. Learning Chinese is a real challenge.

Oh, realize that writing in Russian uses the Cyrillic alphabet (not ours, the Roman). It has 33 unfamiliar letters. Of course everyone has seen Chinese which is a greater challenge.

Culture – Food, customs, music, etc.

You would do well to make yourself very familiar with these factors, once you have decided on a country that interests you. Buy a book, like the Lonely Planet series to help you. Also, many major metropolitan cities have concentrations of all these cultures. Simply go to a Ukrainian restaurant or club and enjoy. Oh, Latin dancing, Salsa and Meringue, is huge. You can really score points if you avail yourself of readily available lessons if you are so inclined.

Well, I clearly have not addressed everything, but I hope this helps. I repeat again that I have only been to the Ukraine, so the information on the other countries is by observation. If you have corrections or other opinions, please share.

As always, I wish you the best. Do yourself a favor and sign up for a tour as soon as you are able. You will never be sorry.

Bob Wray

Age Distribution in the Philippines


Age    Number Percentage

18 – 21  1,875  16.8%

22 – 25  3,719  33.4%

26 – 30  2,956  26.5%

31 – 35  1,416  12.7%

36 – 40    612   5.5%

41 – 45    304   2.7%

46 – 50    151   1.3%

51+         96    .8%

11,129  99.7%